Talin Orfali: “You Are Special…”

This is a great post from fellow blogger Talin Orfali. What an affirmation!


In recent years due to the uncertainty and all the negativity, hopeless attitudes that is filled in this society we often forget how special and how incredible each and everyone of us are. We are all unique in our own little ways. Why don’t people just think of the qualities they have rather than bashing ourselves and degrading ourselves to an all time low? It is very easy to get out of context and insult ourselves. I have seen that happen in so many ways. I attend a bible study and tonight it was no surprise to me that a friend of mine came up to me and said that Oh I don’t think I am good at it, and putting that persons self down. I had to intervene and I had to stop him in his tracks and say hey were all special and we all have something or somethings…

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The Art of Respect

Be Altitude: Respect Yourself

Be Altitude: Respect Yourself (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I love to hear friends quote wise sayings drilled into them by their parents and grandparents, including those I learned myself. My personal favorites are:

“If you really wanted to do it, you’d find a way to do it.”  (my mother)

“If it don’t come out in the wash, it’ll come out in the rinse.” (my Grandma Sadie)

“I pity the frog that don’t praise his own pond.” (my father-in-law)

My father was not one for uttering too many sayings, but he taught us some very concrete lessons that I am passing on to my children. One of the lessons he taught was actually a phrase I heard one of my uncles often say, “Every man’s name has a handle,” meaning people should be addressed by their proper title, whether professional or personal. My boss’ boss is the President of our hospital, as well as a physician. I have worked for him almost 20 years and we have a good professional relationship. Any time he sends me an email, he signs off with just his first name. But because of what I was taught, I still call him “Doctor.” Another physician I work closely with, who is around my age, has threatened me bodily harm if I don’t stop calling him “Doctor.” Needless to say my desire to respect his wishes overshadowed my childhood teaching, and it took me a long time to call him by his first name!

Older neighbors and other adults were never called by their first name, and even as an adult, I still call them “Mr. James” and “Miss Marie.” I remember the first time I was addressed as “Miss Calandra.” Coincidentally, it was the young man who shoveled snow in the neighborhood – his grandparents were our neighbors when I was a child. I didn’t feel old…I felt respected. And I was glad to see that the lesson his grandparents taught his father was passed on to him. We couldn’t even call older cousins by their first name. It was “Cousin Joan” and “Cousin Junior.” I learned from my husband’s grandmother that like in many Southern families, her younger siblings called her “Sister” because the smaller ones were much younger and were not to call their older sibling by her first name. It was a lesson in respect.

So of course, my children have already begun to learn the art of respect, by understanding that what we call people has much to do with how we treat people. It’s a simple lesson, but one I believe that will take them far.

This and That This Week: Subscription Box Services

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Have you ever signed up for a subscription box service? Basically they are monthly subscriptions for boxes filled with samples, and sometimes full-sized products. Subscriptions range from clothing to jewelry and accessories to makeup and haircare products. It’s a great service if you are looking to try-before-you-buy products. Last year, I subscribed to a new service that specialized in natural haircare products. For $20 each month, I received a nice box of at least 6 samples and 1-2 full-sized products. It was a great way to experience different hair products, without become a product junkie, buying full-sized products and being disappointed after their first use. I currently subscribe to Ipsy, where for $10 a month, I receive a nice little cosmetics bag filled with 5 or 6 makeup goodies. Many of these services include coupons for the products, and some even have their own online stores where you can purchase the products as well.

There are tons of subscription services, with monthly fees ranging from $10 to $60 or more. Subscriptionboxes.com is a nice resource filled with user reviews of various services. I also found a nice blog with first-hand reviews, Must Have Boxes (musthaveboxes.com). Some services allow you to choose brands that you like, as they are trying to profile their customers to help build future box selections. The hair product service I used (Curlkit) often features new companies, which I think is cool, as I often like to support independent companies.

Be careful when choosing a subscription box service. Choose one that allows you to cancel at any time, so make sure you check their cancellation policy before signing up. There should not be any mandatory commitments. At most, you may have to pay for the next month’s box, depending on the timing of their billing cycle. If after a few months, you find that you are only interested in one or two selections from each box, then I would consider cancelling. What to do with the unused products? Give them away to your friends, or if you are a YouTuber or blogger, save a bunch of them for a contest prize box. It’s not that the products are not good, they just might not be your color, style, etc.

Tell us your experience with subscription boxes!