The Art of…Letting Go


Over the past few years, I have been actively working on advancing my career. It has been an exciting, and at times, frightening process. Moving forward forces one to embrace the good, the bad and the ugly. However it is always good to take a hard look at yourself and learn more about what makes you tick.

Another effect of self-discovery is letting go – letting go of ideas, emotions, perceptions and sometimes even people. Letting go should never be viewed as a negative exercise. Pruning trees is a great example of letting go – cutting branches back controls growth and removes dead and diseased areas that would normally hinder growth. As much as we might want longer hair, my fellow hair caretakers understand that an occasional clipping of the ends will actually stimulate hair growth. Similarly, exfoliating the skin sloughs off dull and dead skin cells, exposing the growing layer of healthy skin underneath.

All these examples lead to a similar conclusion – letting go is good. Getting rid of anything that is toxic and unhealthy not only takes away the bad, but more importantly, makes way for the healthy, growing and good things to rise to the surface and flourish.

What do YOU need to let go of?


Sloughing Off 2011

My favorite beauty regimen is exfoliation, which involves using some lightly abrasive material or fabric to slough off, or remove skin cells from the outermost layer of skin. It is healthy for the skin because it moves aside the dead skin cells to make room for newer skin cells to emerge, allowing the skin to appear smooth and healthy.

As I mentioned in my Thanksgiving post back in November, I don’t believe in New Year’s Resolutions. Every day of the year is an opportunity to make changes for the better. I usually take time to reflect on the events of the year as the New Year approaches. However, this year I’ve decided to just slough off 2011 and move forward to 2012 – get rid of the dead cells of 2011 and make room for the freshness of the new year. I will not wallow in the challenges of this year, rather I will draw from the strength I gained through those challenges to propel me into 2012.

I always look forward to the new year, ever since I was a kid. This year will be a year of new challenges and projects started in 2011. Consider this your personal preview…

I have entered into a joint venture with my best friend of over 25 years, Stephanie Darby. She and I have formed SistahGirlfriends, Inc., an event-planning collaborative focusing on hosting hair, makeup and beauty shows. We sponsored our first mini-makeup party back in November (read about it here), and plan to host another one in time for Spring 2012. On January 21, 2012, along with our great friends at Doris New York Hair Care Products, we will be hosting our first Annual Hair Revival. NYC beauties are welcome!

My life soundtrack is also evolving – I’m including more downtempo, chill music in my repertoire, thanks to new friends I’ve met through social media. So look for more entries in our section Music Notes. I also look forward to learning to play acoustic guitar, starting next week – I will definitely be posting photos of my new baby! lol

Of course, Jasmine and I will continue to bring articles, interviews and more to This and That With Calandra. Thanks to all our readers for supporting us in 2011…we look forward to sloughing off 2011 and starting 2012 with new skin!