Attention beauties of the NYC area! Its about to go down in 2012!! Doris New York Hair Care Products and Sistah Girlfriends, Inc. sponsor our first Annual Hair Revival!
We are excited to launch our inaugural event as a salute to ALL hair types. Join us for an enlightening and thought-provoking panel discussion featuring:
Winsome Sinclair – Chief Managing Partner, Winsome Sinclair and Associates
Michelle Joyce – President and CEO, Digital Chick Consulting
Brian Luvar – Director/Producer/Photographer. President and CEO Grandma’s Watching Productions
Marlene Duperley – Hair Care Expert/Stylist. Co-Owner and SVP Doris New York Hair Care Products
Edward M. Johnson – Managing Director, Rebel Visions Corporation
And for our entrepreneurs…We are looking for swag bag sponsors. If you are interested, please email us at Hairrevival2012@gmail.com. Thank you.
Please welcome my first guest-blogger, my Cousin Jasmine…Give her some love!
Very early in Calandra’s video blogging, she based an entry on a question her new-mom cousin asked about going on intuition vs. advice. That new-mom cousin was me, Jasmine Ratliff. Recently I asked Calandra if I could occasionally contribute to This and That as my way of slowly entering the blogging world. In the spirit of This and That, my posts will be random thoughts about daily life as a mother, wife, Black woman, working stiff, movie fan, and more. So here’s my first entry–hope you enjoy!
Calandra’s lovely new natural ‘do and hair story video got me thinking about Black women and our hair. Last year I posted a status on Facebook that probably got as much reaction as the announcement of my daughter’s arrival. It was something along the lines of “I think I’m going to put a relaxer back in my hair.” The comments were swift and clearly divided: my natural friends cried “NO!!”, my relaxed friends celebrated “Woo hoo!” Gotta admit I was surprised and yet pretty amused at the very strong opinions some of us have with our hair.
I went natural in college. It wasn’t a coming-into-myself, discovering my roots, connecting with the motherland type of decision; I simply didn’t like doing my hair anymore. Up to that point I had gone through straightening comb and paper-bag roller sessions as a child, crimping irons, finger-waves and braids (a la Janet Jackson in “Poetic Justice”) as an early teen, then steadily cutting it shorter and shorter as a late teen and early adult. By my 3rd year of college I was simply sick of dealing with it. So one day after completing a mid-term I called my hair-dresser and made an appointment for later in the day. I arrived and said “cut it all off.” I wasn’t bald but it was pretty damn short. But I got compliments and ended up keeping it natural for 12 years. It ranged in length from super-short to Angela Davis huge. I twisted it, colored it (including an unfortunate blonde experimentation), cornrowed it and hot-ironed it. Last year I got tired of looking at the afro and back to a relaxer I went. Loving the new look; it’s like seeing a different version of yourself, like when you try new make up. The only thing I miss is not feeling the shower run through my hair every day. Ah well, with change comes some sacrifices…
I think of hair as an accessory, another way to express your personality & style. It’s something fun to play with and get as adventurous as your imagination–and maybe profession–allows. Black women’s “hair-itage” (sorry, couldn’t resist) includes both Afros and chemically straightened (thank you Madame C.J. Walker) and everything in between. I embrace it all. This is not a knock on women who are committed to one look or another, it’s just my outlook on my personal look.
My daughter has hair like mine in it’s natural state: crazy thick and really curly. I absolutely love playing with it. I’ve done poofs, braids (still learning to cornrow) and let it go free. I’m glad that my experience with natural hair helped me figure what products I prefer on her hair, which I would imagine could be puzzling for some who’ve only been relaxed. I’ll teach her our hair history and hope that I instill in her the same fun attitude towards personal style. And I’ll let her decide where to go from there.
In my new natural hair journey, I am finding and loving more YouTube channels and blogs dedicated to natural hair. One of the sites that is just standing out right now is a blog called ,”Beads, Braids, & Beyond,” which actually deals a lot with childrens’ natural haircare as well. I have a vested interest in this subject, as my three-year-old daughter has thick hair, much like the texture, length and strength of my hair at her age. I am vowing to keep her away from the “creamy crack” (chemical relaxer, that is) for as long as humanly possible, hoping that by the time she is of age, she will embrace her natural hair and not feel the need to relax her hair.
Please don’t get me wrong, there is NOTHING wrong with relaxers, weaves, braids – I’ve had them ALL. But as for now, I am seeing the damaging effects of chemical treatments and would like to stay far away from them and get back to my natural hair state (and keep my daughter’s hair in its natural state!). But back to the blog…this site is amazing and I hope you all stop by and read it. I recently found several great posts that excited me. “It’s Never Too Early to Get Your Daughter Involved in Caring for Her Hair” was of great interest to me, as I am now beginning to take care of my daughter’s hair. Her sitter used to do her hair during the week, giving her wonderful styles that lasted through the weekend. With my daughter starting camp recently, and then off to Pre-K next month, the task has become solely mine. We took our first trip to my stylist a few weeks ago, and she was such a little lady! Not only was it a bonding moment for us, but it was an opportunity to start exposing her to the haircare process. This is a great place for haircare tips, products, advice and MORE!!
Photos, Tech, Music, and Musings. Travels the Raleigh, Durham, Chapel Hill, and Greensboro areas of North Carolina. Always open to travel to my home state of New York. Contributing writer for KEH Spotlight.
Don't ever change yourself to impress someone, cause they should be impressed that you don't change to please others -- When you are going through something hard and wonder where God is, always remember that the teacher is always quiet during a test --- Unknown