Staying in the Moment

time-machine-retro-style-illustration-34241376In trying to reinvigorate my blogging for This and That With Calandra, I have been following WordPress’ “Daily Post,” which provides starter prompts for new posts. Today’s prompt was this:

“Congrats! You’re the owner of a new time machine. The catch? It comes in two models, each traveling one way only: the past OR the future. Which do you choose, and why?”

My answer is NEITHER! Time took a different turn for me when I first became a mother in 2006. Many people said, “Enjoy them while they’re young!” Others said, “It’ll get easier as they get older.” Well I decided that I wanted to stay in the moment. Why dwell on the past, and why rush the future? Every stage of my children’s development has been a joy to watch – trying and frustrating at times – but enjoyable nonetheless. Every brain cell I spend thinking about the past or future is energy wasted, energy I could have used in the present moment.

Staying in the moment doesn’t just apply to my children. As you can tell from many of my posts on TTWC, I love to reminisce. There’s nothing wrong with remembering, but wishing to revisit days gone by is non-productive for me. Planning for the future is fine, but I’ll see it when it gets here. So I have no use for time machines. I prefer to stay in the moment!


What Time is It?

TimeMy children have known how to tell time for a few years now, but it seems that lately, if there is no clock in their immediate view, they constantly ask, “What time is it?”  They do it all…the…time… I asked them why they want to know and their answer is, “Because we like knowing what time it is.” Duh.

It made me think about how aware we are (or are NOT) about time. Time is something that can be managed, wasted or well-spent, but it cannot be borrowed, changed or given back. When my children were born, time took a different spin – feeding and sleep schedules were monitored, and I had to be aware of how the timing of my activities fit into their timing (something that has not changed!). Effective time management is crucial – whether it is personal, professional, parental, or a combination of all three. Many of you know that I don’t believe in New Year’s Resolutions. Why wait until January 1 to start something you can start TODAY? In terms of time, the 24 hours on December 31 are the same 24 hours that occur on January 1. As a young child, I remember excitedly counting down the minutes until midnight. If we weren’t in church, we were at home and we would make sure to give everyone a Happy New Year greeting. And then 12:01 became just another minute.

Let’s be clear – I DO value the changing from one year to the next. We should be grateful any time we cross from 11:59 to 12 midnight. I have learned of at least 10 deaths over the last two weeks. Old wives’ tales often speak of more deaths at the end of the year/beginning of the new year, so every day we open our eyes is a gift. Having said that, let’s pay attention to the time. What time is it? Is it time to stop wasting time and start using it more wisely? YES! It’s time to stop talking about ‘it’ and start BEING about ‘it.’ Don’t wait for tomorrow – EVERY day is New Year’s Day!



The Enigma of Time

If you’ve spent M-F sustaining someone else’s dream then use Saturday’s to build yours! You can rest on Sunday!

I read this tweet this afternoon from @TonyGaskins, as retweeted by my friend @MrFresh. I also read it as I spent another Saturday afternoon multi-tasking – between spending time engaged with my 3- and 5-year olds, updating social media contacts and trying to post a new blog. Oh yeah, and in between I’m trying to relax and de-stress from the week, cook, clean and get things ready for church tomorrow. I found this to be quite a profound statement, and translated it in the context of what we spend time on.

Time is money, a luxury, a gift. It can be well-spent or wasted. How often do we say to ourselves or others, “I just don’t have enough time for—–” You fill in the blank. When I had our first child, I clearly remember that TIME became a totally different animal to me. Because everything revolved around a schedule – when he was fed, when he slept, when I changed his diaper. Everything I did and every move I made revolved around his schedule and his needs. For the first time, someone was totally dependent on how I managed my time. And I had no choice but to manage my time as best I could. The same rings true to this day…and I suspect until the children turn 18! LOL

Now back to the quote…so I spend all week working a full-time job (that I actually enjoy) and come home to be full-time wife and Mommy (which I also enjoy!). I am able to carve out two nights a week when I can focus on me, but the irony is that I usually still end up using that time to run family errands or catch up with things at work. So according to Bro. Tony, I should be able to focus on my dreams on Saturday, right?? Well, it doesn’t always work out that way, but what is true is that we must always spend some quality time on our dreams – especially when we spend so much time on the dreams of others. Now don’t get me wrong, the time I spend with my children may not be “ME” time, but it DOES involve making my dreams come true. My time with my children – watching and helping them grow and develop – is part of this mother’s dream of nurturing children who will be healthy, happy and productive citizens.

But as women, as mothers, we DO have to make sure that WE are taking care of ourselves and tending to our dreams, or else we will be OF NO USE to anyone else! (See Hat’s Off!) Thank you Bro. Tony for reminding me that it is crucial to take time for our dreams.

How do you challenge the enigma of time?